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Also, once the principle of ‘no contact’ has been violated, there are often no other barriers effective enough in helping two people to restrain themselves from further kinds of involvement that could lead naturally to a intimacy.

A physical relationship is an essential element in the binding together of two people in marriage.

To fool oneself through this tactic is to lose control over oneself.

Romantic love is not always related to real love, especially when it ignores the true personalities and mutual interest of those involved.

And why is such restraint, forbidding even mere “touching” (or negiah in Hebrew), so crucial a factor in the successful observance of those laws that define the Jewish standards of family loyalty and interpersonal relationships?

Jewish law states that once a young woman begins menstruating, she assumes the status of nidah, and remains, from that point on, “off limits”, in regard to physical contact with men, until the day of her marriage.

Let the woman use her “feminine charm”; it’s her legitimate prerogative, a healthy manifestation of her femininity.

Jewish society cannot tolerate a situation where a young woman, or a young man lets her or himself be used, taken advantage of, or hurt.

There is no ultimate danger if a girl employs her femininity to charm a young man into turning a fleeting interest into a more serious one.

Young men, however, sometimes deceive a young woman into thinking that they are in love, while all they want is a physical relationship.

All this is a matter of decency, honesty and fairness to yourself, to the other person involved, and to your family and Jewish tradition.

It is a pre-condition of authentic and lasting love.

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