Whether you want to clear up a misunderstanding or simply gain a better perspective of your partner’s opinion on the issue, it’s important to check in with why you want to talk about divorce before you bring it up.
Taking the right approach to conversations about marriage can make it easier to discuss your past marriages and divorce.
Previous marriages are a difficult topic of discussion, especially in new relationships.
Plus, it shows your partner that you’re able to learn and grow from the unending challenges of life.
Chilpata adds that it’s best to approach this topic slowly, understanding that it may take many conversations to get to the heart of the matter.
Be patient, stay open to the other’s questions, and as marriage consultant Sheri Stritof advises, “Maintain eye contact.” If you’re dating someone who’s also divorced, asking the right questions can help to open a dialogue about what you’re both looking for, wellness and relationships writer Korin Miller says.
There’s really no need to hide what you’ve been through, so if your partner starts asking questions about it, you should be prepared to talk about it.
Talking about divorce early on is especially important if you have obligations that bind you to your previous spouse, such as child support, divorce fees, or a mortgage.